About Me (November 2022)

To know me is to know the things I DON’T want to do — my phucket list

K. Joseph
4 min readNov 5, 2022


Shark swimming near the bottom of a blue ocean.
Photo by Gerald Schömbs on Unsplash

Most people have a bucket list — a list of things they want to do before they die. But what about the opposite? I’ve noticed fellow writers on Medium post their un-bucket lists. For my November, “About Me” I made a list of all the things I DON’T want to do before I die. Making a list of the things I will never do was fun and challenging. This is my phucket list:

  1. Smoke (anything) — I’ve never smoked a cigarette or anything that causes carcinogens to enter my organ that controls my inhalation and exhalation. Cigarettes also cause lips to darken unattractively. Lung cancer can lead to an ugly death. Cigarette smoke makes your clothes smell horrible. Need I go on? I would never smoke, and I actively avoid passing by or through plums of smoke that other people emit.
  2. Camp in the wilderness — I’m a city girl and like my amenities, small batch bread, fancy restaurants and Vietnamese coffee. I’m happy to visit the wilderness, but I don’t want to sleep out there. The closest thing I do to camping is stay at a Holiday Inn Express.
  3. Ride a bull or run with one — I’m not that coordinated, and I have a healthy respect for large animals. In my imagination, I can see myself letting go right away if I’m riding such a beast. And I’d promptly faint if one was charging towards me.
  4. Compare my life to others — Jennifer Lopez, Tyler Perry, Ernestine Shepherd, Arianna Huffington, and Barack Obama are all my age or older and have made significant and memorable contributions to this world. They are not me, and I am not them. Let me do my thing as I give them and myself grace. Comparing or competing are not activities that bring me joy. I sow joy in my life.
  5. Diving with sharks — No, thank you. I love seeing them in an aquarium. I don’t mind eating them: Trinidad bake and shark — yummy! It’s a traditional fast food dish prepared using fried flatbread, shark meat, and other ingredients. (Want to make it? See the recipe in this cookbook.) But I would never be near real, live sharks with no barrier.
  6. Go on a roller coaster (again) — Been there, done that. It may be related to my aversion to heights…



K. Joseph

Change management leader sharing ideas and experiences that may help you navigate the world of work with your fellow humans.